I have to say WTH were they thinking?! As a past victim of a three year stalking and a victim’s advocate in Chicago, I see NO humor in this ad. It should be removed in the name of all stalking and domestic abuse victims. I mean my felony case is now a quarter of a century ago. Although I did see he yet again found me after a 20 year absence. The fear never goes away. To this day I cannot listen to The Police – Every Breath You Take.
This song came out smack in the middle of having to relocate yet a SECOND time from my stalker. Often when I answered my phone. this is the song that was playing. Although I have put 700 miles between us, which for the very first time since 1982, I can ‘breathe’. Even this post is hard to write, but there are many stalking victims out there and this needs to be done!
Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I’ll be watching you
Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I’ll be watching you
Now to this commercial, maybe you won’t see the severity in it, maybe you have someone in your family or you personally who have been stalked. To me, it is unacceptable & I intend to write Virgin Mobile, although with all the apathy I encountered in my felony case, it is doubtful they will give a crap.
I guess I don’t see the humor, being my stalker actually lived in the basement of my apartment so he could hear the goings on in my apartment one floor above. I guess I don’t see what’s funny when you unlock your door and are grabbed from behind with a knife in your throat. Am ‘I’ overreacting when every time my phone rang I dreaded it?
Although if you have read my earlier posts on the Judge & States attorney (Btw they were both sent to prison) on my case, I’ll inform you when they gave this joker 9 years probation, for a repeat offender who served prison time, that I threw up outside in the hall and was chastised for it by this very same States Attorney. And these guys were suppose to protect me & other victims!
If Virgin mobile was trying to instill fear, which I highly doubt, with this ad being reminiscent of Psycho, they failed EPIC in attracting many new users. Although it seems geared at teens, which in itself is a travesty being the statistics on abuse & stalking on teenage girls is rampant. I hope many parents see this post and avoid Virgin Mobile for being tasteless & potentially sending the wrong message to their kids. To show how idiotic this is this commercial is listed as ‘comedy’ on YouTube.
Another version of this commercial:
Sure it shows how crazy the girl is, real funny. I bet ‘Brad’ would not see it that way…~JP
While legal definitions of stalking vary from one jurisdiction to another, a good working definition of stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.
Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.
* 3.4 million people over the age of 18 are stalked each year in the United States.
* 3 in 4 stalking victims are stalked by someone they know.
* 30% of stalking victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner.
* 10% of stalking victims are stalked by a stranger.
* Persons aged 18-24 years experience the highest rate of stalking.
* 11% of stalking victims have been stalked for 5 years or more.
* 46% of stalking victims experience at least one unwanted contact per week.
* 1 in 4 victims report being stalked through the use of some form of technology (such as e-mail or instant messaging).
* 10% of victims report being monitored with global positioning systems (GPS), and 8% report being monitored through video or digital cameras, or listening devices.
Some things stalkers do:
* Follow you and show up wherever you are.
* Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails.
* Damage your home, car, or other property.
* Monitor your phone calls or computer use.
* Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
* Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
* Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
* Find out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers.
* Posting information or spreading rumors about you on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth.
* Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.
Teens Often Use Cellphones For Stalking More Than Safety
Communication technology can facilitate teen dating abuse, enabling obsessive and controlling behavior.
10 Facts About Teen Dating Violence – Teen Dating Abuse Statistics – Girls as Young as Eleven Report Incidents of Violence and Abuse in Relationships
An invaluable book, Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe that I helped work on with fellow activist Susan Murphy Milano. She gives you an ‘Escape’ plan no one else has bothered to do.